Divorce Mistake #20: Jumping into a new relationship. Divorce is one of the most stressful and isolating experiences you can go through. It makes sense to seek the comfort, emotional connection and fun distraction that a new relationship offers, but please, refrain. Because you are not ready to give another person what they deserve; because your kids will be confused by your bringing a new “parent” into the picture; because you will never learn from the mistakes you made in your marriage if you don’t take time to figure out your responsibility in the failure of that relationship. Take some time to rebuild your sense of self and define yourself apart from your ex.