Divorcing Mom Tip #6: Another Word on Boundaries. If your divorce has been contentious you may want to exchange the children somewhere neutral. This is in your children's best interests (and yours) in terms of peace of mind and safety. A local fast food restaurant or grocery store parking lot can be a great neutral choice for divorced parents, versus choosing your individual homes where a struggle of power and turf can take place. It may be wise to have a friend or relative accompany you to the exchange. In cases where there has been physical abuse, have the exchange at your local police station.