Divorcing Mom Tip #7: Keep A Record. Remember how we said “document, document, document”? Keep a journal of all conversations, incidents, etc. between you and your estranged spouse and anything negative that happens between him and the children. Even if it is just a spiral notebook where you write down notes with the date each day. Say your spouse emailed you the time and place of your son's soccer game, but when you got there no one was around.... and then you realize he purposely gave you wrong information so you'd miss it. While you are there take a photo of the location and then email it to yourself. The email will have the date and time showing you were there at the time your spouse specified. You also have copies of his email showing the wrong time. Now you have evidence if you end up in court.